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BDSM  is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D, B/D, or BD), dominance and submission. This lifestyle is not for everyone but if you have some hidden fantasies involving (D&S, D/S, or DS), or  (S&M, S/M, or SM). This BDSM web site is just for you.

BDSM  is not just one thing but a very wide spectrum of adult activities, forms of interpersonal relationships to a very active  subcultures.  Not all BDSM are overtly sexual in nature, some just involve relationships within a BDSM frame work. No matter what type it is, it is always eroticized by the participants in some fashion.  The majority of the BD or BDSM  falls outside  conventional sexual activities and human relationships.

So what does BDSM activities include?  Here are a few of them:  dominance and  sexual roleplaying is very common. Then there is submission, discipline, and punishment.  Many adults enjoy a good spanking during their sexual role playing. For some bondage, or they enjoy of being unable to react to your partner having his or her way with you and a great turn on.  It is giving the power to another in exchange for pleasure.  Sexual roleplaying can include sexual fetishism and sadomasochism.  Most BDSM are within the spectrum of mainstream personal and sexual interaction with the partner.

What many do not know and what is very important  to understand, is that  BDSM is not a form of sexual abuse. It does not include hurting your partner physically.  Sometimes  BDSM activities may appear to be violent or coercive but it is completely consensual.  Many who do this all the time use the words SSC which means " safe, sane and consensual".   However if you see RANCK involving BDSM  this is more aggressive and is does involve some risk of injury or a greater amount of pain.  If you just want to explore your hidden fantasies it is highly recommended that you only look for SCC members.

BDSM is often like a play since the adults are role playing.  The dress, modes of behavior and even the dress code is all part of it.  Some BDSM may seem like kinky sex but to BDSM members it is just an different form of adult encounter.  To some, scratching the back of the partner may seek kinky but to others it is just showing passion.  Spanking is the same way.  Many males and females when they are turned on. get great pleasure from getting spanked. Sometimes the spanking will turn the skin red but it is never intended to injure the person.  As such encounters are often, but not always, at least partly sexual in nature and many times lead to a very powerful orgasm or ejaculation. People outside of BDSM have a tendency to view it as a form of "kinky sex".  Using ice cubes then heat can be part of DBSM on a  partner that is tied up.  But there is never an intent to hurt the other person just to give them pleasure in a different way.  Just as some think masturbation as being kinky, or using the water or a vibrator on a penis or a clit as BDSM which it is considered since it is an alternate lifestyle it does not mean it is not  just normal sex for the individual or couple.

So if you are curious, join and just take a look at others.  You will find members who believe in SSC to the risky RANCK.